Parenting: From an Adolescent’s View.
This passage is a speculative insight into the paradoxical implications of parenting. Now, warning you I am an adolescent, so this will more than likely be biased, but regardless, it brings certain fallacies of parenting to light. To begin, it is a complete joke, to attempt to tell your child to not do something, which your child knows for a fact you did while you were their age. The common saying “actions speak louder than words.” has merit, and doesn’t exist for no reason. This saying, due to the imitational learning process found in the human psyche, will always outweigh the “do as I say, not as I do.” phrase. Parents, your child will make better decisions, and become more respectable as a person, if you trust them and give them freedom. We have an innate reaction to rebel against the rules you set up for us. Therefore, the more rules you establish, the more likely we are to do the opposite. You were this age once, you should be able to relate. Not to mention, the more you rules you impose on us will have an inverse relation with the amount of time we wish to spend with you. The more free-willing you are, the more your child will want to be around you. Your child is human, let them make mistakes. Allow them to learn from their incorrect decisions. If they are obviously not learning from these mistakes, then step in. However, do not impede on allowing them to make the mistake at least once in attempt to grant them the learning process imbedded in each and every mistake. If you attempt to outlaw the very things you did as a child, your child will view this as hypocritical. This will not only increase their disrespect for you, but also make them have an increased inclination to do whatever is ruled-out. Just think, your child will soon grow up to be on their own, and if you baby them their entire in-home life, they will have no idea how to react on their own in situations after. We realize you want us to be safe, but without freedom, we have no idea what its like to be free, so when we finally are, we will be overwhelmed.



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